7 SCA Peer Mentoring Expectations
I’ve apprenticed to two different Laurels in the SCA and live more remotely than many in Calontir. It’s why I’ve considered peer mentoring at length.
Respect–Each must know and respect the other to succeed. Without mutual respect, the student won’t take the peer’s advice seriously. The peer’s guidance may seem inconsiderate. Does the student consider the peer’s craft, service and deportment appropriate? Does the peer feel the student exudes learning desire and caring?
Learning Environment–Do both have available time and compatible schedules? Does the teacher know what the student wants to learn or where to find it? How is criticism shared and taken? These considerations float the association boat and make learning possible.
Goals–Mutual goals are important to any relationship. What does each want from the association: skill knowledge, authentic encampment or an event pal? Goals set the boat’s direction.
My opinion: I wouldn’t take an apprentice if hanging out was their only goal. I would gladly welcome them and offer hospitality.
Household—My experience is the siblings in the household build a close relationship, sometimes closer than with the peer. For a joyful household, a bond must form for them to become shipmates. How can each of you build that? What consultation is asked and given to take a new member?
These and similar questions take time (perhaps a year) for each and all to consider and test, together and separately, prior to associating. Except for honor, I could make concessions. Sharing and weighing the details sets the boat’s direction toward its port.